My brother, Jim, arrived early Sunday morning to spend time with Mom. Completing his litany of greetings as he neared Mom's room, Jim passed Room 803 and noticed that Guy was still in bed; he is not a man who "sleeps in." Jim stopped and offered up his usual greeting; Guy responded in kind.
An hour later, Jim decided Mom might benefit from spending a little time outside among the flowers, enjoying the early morning sun and an unseasonably cool breeze. While heading out, they were passed by the blur of Guy's wheelchair as he headed in the same direction.
Sunday was no different from any other day. Guy was on the move.
Guy is 84 years old and "doesn't look a day over 65" -- whatever that means; age is relative, after all. While heart disease and a debilitating stroke have recently rendered him unable to walk, he has managed nicely.
Herodotus famously wrote of ancient couriers who allowed, "neither snow nor rain nor heat nor gloom of night," prevent them from swiftly completing their appointed rounds. While this may not accurately apply to modern-day mailmen, Guy is the living, breathing embodiment of this credo. From the moment he laid eyes on his Quantum 600 wheelchair, he has been of a singular mind -- nothing was going to prevent him from getting the hell out of "that" building. He wasted no time.
Guy's adventures are a constant source of entertainment at GVM -- the veritable "stuff" from which nursing home "legends are made."
Once free of the building, Guy effectively took ownership of the extensive properties surrounding the facility. Everyday after breakfast, Guy takes off through the front entrance then heads down a long, winding drive eventually arriving atop a summit known affectionately to many as, "Guy's Hill." I don't know how much time he spends up on his hill on any given day; I have seen him basking in the morning sun as well as the growing evening shadows; he ventures out in rain, sleet, or snow. He wants nothing more than to be free.
There is/are (a) gaggle(s) of geese that have taken up residence on his property. He apparently makes a daily tally of these large-(ly dirty) foul. At last count, there were 44 -- give or take a few errors in accounting. And recently, he was beside himself with excitement over the discovery of a beaver at work in one of his ponds; while he never personally saw it, he went to great lengths explaining the beaver's handiwork to anyone who would listen.I first came to really learn about Guy through word of his exploits. Gossip around the nursing home spreads faster than any fire. I had previously heard several reports of the "renegade resident" who "constantly escapes from the building in his wheelchair and 'hides out' up on a hill." One day, similar gossip was enhanced by a report that the
"same man" had been discovered upside-down -- with only his wheels visible to passers-by. (Guy was fine if not a little embarrassed.) The nursing home administration ultimately conceded the futility of discouraging his adventures but demanded he add an embarrassing orange "caution" flag to the back of his chair; he decorated their flag with a "skull and crossbones."And, this is how it was on Sunday -- as Mom and my brother set out to enjoy the beautiful morning, Guy met them along the way to his hill. My brother's earlier impression had been wrong; "Guy looks great!" Always in the mood for a good conversation, Guy was eager to sit and talk but Mom suddenly asked to be returned to her room. Before heading their separate ways, Guy asked, "Are you going so soon?"
The irony is staggering; Guy passed away two hours later with his daughter at his side.
His death came as a complete shock.
I am grateful for the time I shared with this man. I don't know what experiences made up the other 83 years of his life before coming to GVM; I only know the man who lived two doors down from Mother these past thirteen months. We all knew him as a gentle giant of a man. We shared pizza (but, sadly, no beer) on Super Bowl Sunday; birthday cake this past April; made dinner reservations for him so that he might enjoy a nice dinner (and a lot of wine) with his daughter; watched as he unabashedly flirted with my sister; made fools of ourselves attempting to decipher the "greek" instructions for a "simple" TV remote; laughed together at the latest new joke his physical therapist had shared; brought him the daily newspaper.
Like so many other family members at GVM, Guy's daughter, Suzie, disrupted her own life in another city to be close to her father after he suffered a stroke and ultimately entered the nursing home. Shortly after his death, Suzie called to relay the sad news; she later confided that she would not have traded the experience for any reason because, "I got to fall in love all over again with this man -- my Father."
Guy did make the trek up to his hill that morning. Just like every other day, he had a place to go and geese to count. None could have predicted where his journeys would ultimately take him on Sunday, but we are somehow comforted knowing he now moves unencumbered. Free of the wheelchair at last, he is travelling on his terms. Guy is truly free.
When the Poet thought of "Those Who Were Truly Great," he finished his work with, "Born of the sun they traveled a short while towards the sun, and left the vivid air signed with their honor." These words come closest to expressing the respect I hold for my friend, Guy.
A new resident will eventually move into Room 803. Guy's name placard will be replaced with one bearing the name of the stranger. And with time, many of us will probably come to love this person as well. But that room -- it will never be anything more than, "Guy's Room," to me.
And, I will never pass your hill, Guy, without thinking of you and that silly flag. We are now left alone to wonder where your new adventure has taken you.
May the road rise up to meet you.
May the wind be always at your back.
May the sun shine upon your face;
the rain fall soft upon your fields
and until we meet again,
may God hold you in the palm of His hand.
(Gaelic Blessing)
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